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Dear Ridhuan Tee,

As seen and published on The Malay Mail Online on February 17, 2015.

Dear Ridhuan Tee,

Your blatant disrespect for other faiths (or people) increasingly infuriates me and I cannot help but finally pen this down. I have, in many occasions, dismissed your rude statements, but it has come to a point where I no longer can stand your nonsense. Don’t get me wrong, I am all for freedom of speech. By all means, go ahead, run amok and pollute Malaysian minds with your ignorance, but that also means I should be able to speak against the trash that I think you are spouting.

First, what you said on women’s bodies. What in the name of God’s hell is that?

You say that women’s bodies attracts rapists because “the logic is simple”. Women’s bodies are arousing and alluring. Then you go on to say “If it’s fated that many of those who cover their ‘aurat’ are raped, then it’s fate”, and the only reason loosely-clothed woman are more commonly raped is because their article of clothing is more easily removed as compared to tight clothing. Are you serious? The fallacies in your logic are mind-blowing, sir! I don’t mean to be the one to point this all out to you, but please:

  1. A huge percentage of rapes are committed by acquaintances, friends or relatives. It is undoubtedly true that a lot of rapes are also committed by strangers, but what are you trying to say about the people who were raped by their own family members? How sick does one have to be to get “turned on” by your own kin?
  2. Rape is not all about sex and getting aroused. Rape is not an over-spill of sexual energy. Arousal plays little to no part in rape, and it mostly has to do with dominance over the other party. People rape those they think are weaker than themselves, and this is the reason why there are people raping children, babies, and even men raping other men. What is your solution to this problem? Or are you just going to tell a mother that it was fated her son was molested.
  3. Considering the diversity of women’s bodies, could you say that all women’s bodies are arousing and alluring to you? I have many male friends who do get aroused by women, but not to the point of rape. One has to be a real devil to rape, and how shallow are you to think that getting aroused immediately leads to rape? Again, the problem is not in what the women are wearing, but in the way the men react to her. Just because you are aroused by someone in public does not mean you run towards her with an erection and penetrate her without her consent.

Rape can be prevented, yes, by raising boys into respectable men. Not by restricting what women can or cannot wear. How else then will you explain the high rape cases in Middle Eastern countries where women are so heavily-clad from top to bottom? Is it because their clothes can be easily removed? If we’re following this logic, shouldn’t nude beaches be scenes of mass orgy and rape considering the fact that there is nothing to remove in the first place? But no. Apparently these people handle their sexual drives better than we do, don’t they? These… these “uncircumsized” people, as you put it. Which brings me to my next point. You’ve really outshone yourself this time by calling all non-Muslims uncircumsized. That just goes to show how much you know about other religions. Do you honestly think that Islam is the only religion that circumsizes? In fact, did you know that Judaism was the first religion to start the tradition of circumcision? Well, now you do. It just appals me to no end how you are practically putting all the blame on women. If you wear tight clothes, it’s your fault if you get raped. If you wear loose clothes, it’s fate that you were raped. Either way, there’s no winning, is there? Just happy pedophiles and rapists waiting to emerge because there will always be people like you who will be defending their case. It’s unacceptable when a man rapes a baby, a child, an animal or even another man, but the moment a man rapes a woman, there are bigots like you asking “What was she wearing?” and doing the victim-blaming. I would like to end by redirecting one of your quotes back to yourself, “In brief, don’t be a smart aleck or act like a ‘know-it-all.’ It’s damaging to your own faith.” And I sir, honestly think that you are the damage to your own faith.


7 comments on “Dear Ridhuan Tee,

  1. tacokitten
    February 17, 2015

    How convenient for this misogynistic chauvinist to blame it on women, but seeing as how most of his comments go, I did not expect anything else.

    I agree with you that the onus should be on MEN to control their desires, instead of the other way around. It is unfortunate that we live in the 21st century and still have people with 3rd century mindsets.

    I think our local media is partly to blame for publishing this clown’s comments. It feels like in today’s cluttered public space, everyone has an opinion and everyone wants to have their say.

    Malaysia has a lot of moderates, but why are we giving so much coverage to these over-the-top buffoons? We need the silent majority and rational thinking ones to speak up and say that ‘THIS IS NOT WHAT MALAYSIANS REPRESENT’, but they are few and far between. As Edmund Burke once said, “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men should do nothing.”

    Kudos for your article and voicing our your opinion! I can’t agree with your points more.


    • SickOfThisShit
      March 25, 2015

      I hear you and totally agree. The main issue is that being “moderate” by definition means that we don’t like to raise our voices, resort to insults, or otherwise force ourselves on other people over stupid stuff.

      Extremists on the other hand, have no such inhibitions. Anything goes for them. It’s ironic how they will claim piety and live according to the straight and narrow path, but will revert to childish behaviour in a moment’s notice.

      Moderates who are accused of being liberal and have no morals tend to be more civilised and prefer discussion and agreeing to disagree.

  2. Name
    February 17, 2015

    I got what is you’re trying to tell about. Men should lower his gaze to a women too and control his lust. But, I prefer you to read the real article on Sinar by Dr. Ridhuan Tee himself(maybe you’ve read it). It’s not fair to blame all the points that had given by him. In my view, you are a bi

  3. manusia
    February 17, 2015

    I understand for what are you going to tell about. Yes, men should lower their gaze and control their lust to women. But, I prefer you to read the real article on Sinar by Dr. RIdhuan Tee(DRT) himself.(maybe you’ve read it, my mistake) It’s not fair to blame all the points that had given by DRT. In my view, you’re going too “meleret” from the real point that DRT wanted to voice out. Because the main thing he tried to show is about “why women must cover their aurah” to reply the comment from Ultra Kiasu(I don’t know the real name)and also about hudud. He said about somethings that has a ‘dalil’ , it was not his own opinion. I agree with some of your opinion, but you still can’t deny the fact that
    women’s bodies can attract rapists because that type of men is still exist, right? it’s simple logic(well, NOT all men like kind of that :D) . Actually, I don’t see any ‘insulting’ to women on his article, he tried to point out that women must cover their aurah that ruled by Allah and the intend of this matter is as a ‘precaution’ for a women and men also.
    “IF it’s fated that many of those who cover their ‘aurat’ are raped, then it’s fate” fate is still a fate, punishment is still a punishment, don’t worry, the rapists will be punish by real Islamic law that we ‘afraid of’, so what’s wrong. The important thing is, we follow the rules that given by the Almighty God, the result will be determined by Allah.
    “Judaism was the first religion to start the tradition of circumcision?” ok! this looks funny to me. You don’t need to explain to DRT that Judaism was the first… because as a person that has PhD title in his own skill(more to religion). I believe he knew about it before you because it is an important history that we all have to know, you don’t need to tell him about that actually. I believe that he knew what he was saying about(frankly, it’s irreverent to use uncircumcised to reflect non-muslims. Yes, his mistake). I don’t want to argue about this with you, I respect your own opinion and this writing is also my opinion, I have a reason to agree with Dr. Tee. Thanks and assalam.

    • Mic
      September 3, 2016

      You must be a damn wahabi muslim male chauvinist pig….

  4. Hamba Allah
    February 18, 2015

    I’m 100% with you @manusia. Thankyou.

  5. Syah
    March 4, 2015

    I agree with you @Manusia. Jzkk.

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